When the love’s over

(The Cappuccini)

love’s over oil on canvas panel 23×40

All the people we love and who later became almost unknown people (sometimes the change is drastic that seems to have a stranger on our side) or maybe they just left our lives, all these people came to teach us something, to add the that we had not yet understood, learned … about ourselves!

This is an external and broad vision, a conclusion realized after a long time but mainly after having known me deeply. If I were still a girl (and in love), I probably wouldn’t be able to look at love from that point of view. Age and experience count but if before going out there ‘with the two little hearts to the place of the pupils we are with our eyes wide open against themselves, love will not blind us but will reward us with a person at our level, capable of promoting a unique growth, that is, the two together.

mixed media on paper

Often, the lesson at the end of a love is painful. And do you know why? Because until we learn what we should learn, until a certain problem and its solution do not enter our vision, we will always continue to get involved with the same type of person, having the same type of relationship. It is like the friend who always gets involved with complicated, married, or problematic men.
Obviously this person in the case our friend, has not yet understood the vicious circle that must be stopped. It must be stronger than the veil that covers your eyes. A repetitive relationship arrives to open her mind-body-soul, then she will find another person, perhaps more evolved (or with another type of problem, after all, nobody is perfect!) Sorry for the playful tone, but after some emotional disasters it is good to laugh at yourself.

And this is the beauty of love, sometimes it teaches us difficult lessons, sometimes it teaches us’ immense happiness. The important thing is to grow. It could be that it was necessary to let them hurt us, to lock us up at home because of jealousy, perhaps we limited our freedom because the other party could not be seen in public … a thousand situations that destroy us until the day that we decided to get up and fly away.
Love yourself first and receive the due value. Love cannot diminish the human being, only add. Next time, we hope to find someone who can fly like us! With love, Odara